Seed Stroller – 從容優雅的母親培育出情緒穩定的孩子

Due to the reason of my Visa to stay in Germany, I had to live in Taiwan alone during the pregnancy; I could only get connected with Michael via Skype. It was tough to handle everything by myself; I even went to the hospital alone to give birth. I was forced to be strong.

After giving birth, I was not alone anymore. First time in my life I felt that I am a grown-up person, I was strong enough to carry everything on my shoulders. However, I worried if I could be a good mother for my baby. How to take care of her, how to take a shower for this little girl; how about food or milk? I thought, facing to a new life, I could never be careful enough and responsible for her.

Although I tried to study all baby books as many as possible; they show novice mothers how to test the bath water temperature, how to disinfect the bottles, they even explain how to understand different meanings when your baby cries.

Less than two weeks, all worries and problems solved naturally. I did not get a tutor but realized how to be a mother from the natural instinct. It was not necessary to understand why my baby girl cried, I took her in my arms and felt her heartbeats; we finally fell asleep together in the same respiratory rate.

It was just about two months, the little doll became a real individual; she had her needs and emotions. To be honest, instead of a relationshop between a mother and a child; she was more like a girlfriend to me, I shared with her about my thoughts, worries; she supported me at that time, when the time was tough.

因為簽證的關係,加上又與原生家庭感情淡薄,所以當時在台灣待產時是獨自地生活著,產檢、臨盆與大小事都得自己來,那時候只能靠網路視訊電話維持米夏爾與我們之間的關係。許多時候孕婦細微、敏感的情緒毫無警訊地往心坎衝,酸騷騷的滋味無法透過電腦螢幕傳遞排解;在心理上常常反覆地在勇敢堅強與懦弱悲傷之間掙扎,微笑之後突然感覺孤單一陣鼻酸、挺起肩膀同時卻覺得背脊沈甸甸的快要倒下,是段不好過的日子。

女兒落地之後,有她的存在我不再孤獨,第一次覺得自己長大,硬是撐開了兩頭肩膀,成為一個獨立的個體。為人母,最令我擔憂的,是該如何照顧這個小娃兒,該怎麼洗澡、如何換尿布,那麼餵食呢?做事總是粗心大意的自己面對一個生命時,心裡不由得膽戰心驚。

生產前有機會便在書店裡翻閱育兒書,書中有詳盡說明,從洗澡的水溫到沖泡牛奶的水質溫度奶瓶消毒等,就連嬰兒的哭聲都有分析解說,好讓新手媽媽有跡可尋辨別問題癥結。

不消兩個星期,絕大部分的擔憂迎刃而解;絕不是教科書強大或是自己領悟力高,而是為母則強。很自然地,一個手勢一個動作,輕輕撩起寶寶細弱雙腿,溫柔地替換髒污的尿布;夜裡寶寶哭了,不需要理由不必探知原因,從小床裡撈起這軟綿綿的身體輕輕地依偎在胸口,儘管母女兩人心跳頻率不一,最後總在同樣的呼吸起伏中緩緩睡去。

孩子很快長大,不出兩個月時間,已經可以與女兒騷弄逗笑;她已經不只是個毛髮捲翹的洋娃娃,她有情緒、有反應。坦白說,相較於兩人之間的母女關係,因為生活背景,她更像是我那段時間獨自生活的精神支柱與依靠;我對她傾訴心中情緒、煩惱以及那份對遠在德國的愛人的思念。

In the past years, we face to the same issues and troubles that all families would have; financial condition, relationship, and parenting. That baby girl is now eleven years old, and all baby issues are far away from our daily life. However, I realized from the past years that parents who are calm and elegant could cultivate children who will have the gentle and peaceful temperament.

Being calm and elegant not only in the outer clothing but having a free and serene mind state that would help us to go with the flow and find a balance in it.

My father has been a stubborn person; he was very severe in education. When we were small, we had always felt careful and aware not to step on his mines. Moreover, my mother stuck in among her husband and children; she had chosen to escape from reality and just done her duty as a mother. From the growing background, My personality is very depressing; I do not know how to communicate with others, I doubt myself and have no self-confidence. My inner part has never been free. For a long time, I had fallen into such stress.

When my daughter was old enough to express her needs and emotions, I realized that I did not know how to communicate with her. Moreover, I gave her my stress; several times, I felt her fear and uneasiness in the beginning years of her baby period.

Luckily, my partner who has an easygoing personality, that helps and remedies the parts that I was lacking. Progressively, the stressful situation has been solved. My personality is still depressed; however, I have learned how to stay with my girl and listen to her needs.

We expect our children to reach our wishes and claim; however, we sometimes forget that they are just a mirror to reflect how we are in their minds, and then follow our behavior to act. Only when we are calm and free in mind; our children might develop a peaceful temperament.

這些年來在德國的生活如同所有家庭,我們面臨了經濟、相處、教養以及任何其他都會面對的問題與現實存在的狀況。如今女兒已經十一歲,尿布奶瓶已經是閣樓裡的陳年往事;不過這些年與女兒相處時我卻有個深刻的體會,那便是:態度從容優雅的父母親真的可以培育出情緒較為穩定平和的孩子。

從容優雅指的並非是外在上裝扮的美感,而是內心裡一份舒適恬靜的韌勁帶領著自己隨遇而安、在起伏中找到相對應的平衡點。

我的父親脾性強烈,在教養上有非常主觀狹隘的見解與堅持,從小家裡兩個孩子是在緊張高壓的家庭氛圍中成長,深怕一個無心之過遭惹罵打之禍;而母親夾在父親與我們兩個孩子之間則選擇了精神層面上的神遊與逃避。這種成長環境讓我的個性十分壓抑,不懂得與旁人溝通,甚至常常懷疑自己的能力、沒有自信缺乏安全感;我的淺在情緒總是波濤洶湧起伏不定,在人生中好長一段時間裡吃足了自己帶來的苦頭。

女兒開始能與周遭環境互動之後,徹底地讓我驚覺自己性格上的缺失;在女兒有情感上的需求時,我竟然不懂得如何與她互動。更甚,我竟然將自己受挫的情緒投射到這個小女娃身上,在她四歲之前,我好幾次在她咖啡色瞳孔中看見自己小時候的那份恐懼與不安。

另一半隨性不拘小節的個性正好填補了在雙親本質上我所缺少的部分;幾年下來隨著年歲增長,我慢慢地將幼時的遺憾彌補回來。本性難移,雖是無法完全擺脫自小養成的壓抑性格,但與女兒之間的緊張氣氛已解除,彷彿又回到兩人獨自在台灣相依為命、彼此需要的共體關係。

當父母的我們總是希望孩子達到符合我們期待的要求,卻都忘了孩子是我們最真實的一面鏡子,他們的行為與應對其實正好反映出我們在他們心中的模樣。當我們擁有內心的平和,以從容優雅的態度與心境與孩子相處,他們也才能培養出較為穩定的心性與性格。

When I tried to compose the shooting for Seed Stroller, it reminded me the old times. From experience, I think it is also important to have easy-to-use baby accessories and equipment to help us for better parenting.

Going out with a baby or a child is a challenge of energy and endurance; there is a long list that you have to prepare to bring with you even just for a coffee in a Cafe on the corner. Bags and things hang on the stroller; it is hard to be light-packed. I was so stressful with our old and big and heavy stroller that was even not a low price stuff. I could not fine a proper space in my little apartment in Taiwan; after moving to Germany, we could also not put the stroller into our car easily. What a problem we had.

在接下丹麥品牌Seed嬰幼兒推車的拍攝專案之後,回想起起過往年月的記憶;深深覺得不只在身心上性情的培養可以幫助我們在教養上的應對關係,其實選擇好用的育兒周邊用品也可以達到事半功倍的效果。

尤其好用上手更是關鍵。帶著嬰幼兒或是小小孩出門已經是精耐力的挑戰,每回要跨出家門前得事先準備的必須用品更是足以列滿一張清單:尿布、奶瓶、熱水、奶粉、濕紙巾布巾、備用的乾淨上衣褲子等,再加上娃娃推車,東掛西勾一大把,要想簡便利索的確不容易。當初購入使用的那把推車在售價上已不算低廉,卻沈重累贅,更令人感到氣餒無比的是,在台灣狹小的居住空間裡找不到一個適合的角落置放推車;來到德國之後想要出遊,推車卻很難卡進後車廂裡,陷入這樣兩難的局面。

A stroller does not exist in our life for a long time. However, I think it is important to introduce you good brands or products that I know due to the opportunities I get from work. The weekend when I received the stroller; my daughter stayed with me in the living room to study how to construct the stroller. She tried to put herself in the stroller and can not believe that she was so small.

The main construction of Seed is in an L shape; it teams with various seats and accessories for different needs and different age babies or children. Moreover, given its height of only 22 cm when folded together. It is hard to believe that how huge our old one was.

When we shot the campaign, I also filmed a video to show you how to fold the stroller. Looking at the model mother how she acted with her little girl, it warmed my heart on that sunny and golden weekend. Feel free to follow the YouTube channel to get informed when a video goes online.

距離使用嬰兒推車的時期已經很久,卻深深覺得如果因為工作上的接觸而認識了好產品時,的確應該介紹給有需求的讀者了解。拍攝前收到推車的那個週末,我與女兒兩人蹲坐在客廳地板上研究起組合要領,她作勢要躺進推車裡的模樣著實可愛,拉著我問她小時候的往事,不敢相信自己曾經那麼迷你、對世事充滿好奇急欲探索。

Seed嬰幼兒推車以ㄥ字型為主要結構支架,搭配上嬰幼兒不同時期躺坐需求的座椅以及配件。回到家裡或是駕車出遊時,可以將結構支架與配件拆開來,摺疊成輕薄不佔空間的尺寸。再回想以前那台停在公寓裡廁所前的戰車,每每上廁所前得先爬過推車才能方便的窘境,著實莞爾。

拍攝專輯同時錄製了以下這支影片,看著影片中模特兒媽媽甜蜜地與女兒互動、輕巧俐落地使著Seed推車,在初春金黃陽光照耀下的週末讓人心頭也暖和和的。歡迎訂閱YouTube影音頻道接收更新的資訊。

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Color : Grey-Melange

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Color : Marsala

When I had meetings with Seed, I shared with them about the Chinese Speaking community in Germany; moreover, the reason why I would like to communicate these people. They were touched and would like to offer two Companion bags to my readers, you. This baby bag is designed in a minimal style, a truly stylish bag to have even when your child does not need a stroller anymore.

與Seed廠商討論拍攝細節時,同時聊到了組織的「在德國生活的華人女子」 社團,並且與對方分享了我成立的初衷。沒想到讓同樣身為母親的接洽人員很是感動, 想提供兩個COMPANION背包給住在德國生活的女子們。這款育兒背包設計簡潔完全沒有媽媽味,就算小孩子長大了一樣可以當成生活中的便包使用;可以肩背、側背,或是掛在推車的把手上。

Here are some steps to follow if you would like to be part of the giveaway.

  1. Two bags for two winners
  2. Visit the website of Seed and try to design your colors. Leave a message below and let us know about your design. For example, Copper+Black+Black. It is a complete function for customer designs.
  3. Follow the social media accounts of Seed, Seed Kinderwalen on Facebook and/or Seed_Deutschland on Instagram.
  4. Complete two steps above and you will have an opportunity to win one bag that costs Euro 89.
  5. The giveaway ends on 5th of April, Wednesday. I will announce two winners on 6th of April, Thursday.
  6. The giveaway opens only to German cities.
  7. Seed is responsible is responsible for sending the bags to two winners. Colors are randomly chosen.

如何參加這個贈獎活動,獲得這兩款包包呢?方法如下:

  1. 兩個包、兩位得主(沒有孩子的女子也可以參加喔!)
  2. 到Seed的官網玩一下推車的設計與配色(如下圖),然後在底下留言區寫下你的設計。例如:Copper+Black+Black。這樣的設計構想十分客製化,幾乎可以滿足不同品味與生活方式的族群,很令人喜愛。
  3. 加入Seed Kinderwagen臉書頁面或是Seed_Deutschland Instagram帳號。
  4. 只要以上兩個步驟都完成了,就有機會獲得價值八十九歐元的背包。
  5. 贈獎活動從文章刊登起至四月五日星期三德國時間午夜零時為止;兩位得主將在四月六日星期四公布。
  6. 此贈獎活動只針對德國境內開放。
  7. 包款由Seed寄出,顏色隨機出貨。

Seed Deutschland   

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Special thanks to
Comptoir des Cotonniers1.2.3
for the styling

Behind The Scenes 

Here I would like to show you some behind the scenes photos. After shooting, my daughter asked me to show her the images; afterward, she told me that the new generation is lucky to have good strollers.

以下分享拍攝當天側拍、對我十分有意義的紀錄照片。這天回到家來,女兒央著要看些拍攝的成果;之後突然老成地說道:現在的孩子們可真是幸運,有那麼好的推車可以坐呢。

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Fanning Tseng is the master behind the lifestyle website Yes! Please Enjoy which was founded in 2012. Since Fanning has moved to Germany, she re-experiences and rethinks about her growth. Living in different culture cities, she becomes a connection between Asia and Europe. Fanning is now working as a professional photographer and a full-time blogger; moreover, she is also the fashion insider of Vogue Taiwan and columnist of many well-known online magazines.

Yes! Please Enjoy is not only a destination for a better living encourage but also as a guide for those who are searching for travel advice or lifestyle inspiration in Germany. Besides, Fanning is working on connecting Chinese-Speaking women who live in German-Speaking countries; her goal is to have a community to support these women when they face with difficult life issues in the related cities.

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