CALIDA Home Wear 愛自己,成為一個連你自己都愛的人

When we shot the photos, my assistant and I could not help but keep laughing. I had to hold back my stomach and breath to get a “looked-like flat belly”; moreover, to adjust my position with the sunlight to get a better shadow and an “almost” perfect body shape. That was a fun shooting; it was also the most challenging shooting than to shoot winter garments in summer.

By viewing my body through editing the images; I thought about an issue of the woman, and it’s related themes and stories. I wrote an article some months ago, “can we women own all of it?” My idea is, before you complete something, you must develop yourself firstly. We courage women to love we selves more, but it just becomes a slogan. Through this article, I would like to share with you some of my lifestyles concept; why we should treat ourselves better and how to follow the idea.

拍攝這場居家穿搭時,和助理兩人一直笑場;我拼命將肚子往內吸屏住呼吸,在光線照射下調整姿勢為的就是找到一個最完美的角度讓助理按下快門。而助理倒是很給面子,至少在按快門時不竊笑,讓我不致於岔了氣一桶游泳圈肚子往外翻,否則拍攝現場還需要氧氣筒急救,以免長時間屏住呼吸而發生意外呢。真是撰寫部落格以來最辛苦的一場拍攝;相較之下,冬天拍夏裝、夏天拍冬裝都已經沒有議論的必要。

不過在檢視自己身體同時讓我也好好地思考了「女人」這個角色,以及相關的議題與討論。在之前撰寫的文章「女人能否兼顧一切」裡,我提出了:「成就事物之前,應該先成就自己的心靈」這樣的概念;希望把「女人要好好愛自己」這句空泛的口號化成為更積極的鼓勵話語,讓我們都有個依循的信念可以寄託,不至於在迷失了自己的同時還喃喃自語著愛自己,卻絲毫沒有頭緒該如何愛。

How to treat ourselves better, how to complete ourselves? Read some more books or often visit Starbucks? In some months, I will turn to be forty-one; through my past life experience, from Taiwan to Germany, different language and culture, I have learned something which is useful.

Understand Yourself Well

For example, it is like to look at your naked body from head to toe; no matter your body shape or your mind and attitude; I mean, the real you under the mask that you are used to wearing when you face to others. After understanding yourself well, you will realize the things you do are for yourself or others. A while ago, I had a meeting with one of my business partners; I almost could not recognize the lady who came to open the door for me. She looked different, a face-off transformation. She lost more than twenty kilos in seven months; I did not say, she had been over-weighted more than half of her life. I asked about her motivation. “I felt bad when I walk; my spine and legs got problems from my weight. It is better to find out the source of the problem than to take the rehabilitation. That is all.” It is what happens after she understood herself completely. There are many reference books to teach us how to lose weight, how to become more beautiful; however, they only show us one motivation that we will be attractive to others. They never remind us that the only reason we do something should be that we never forget the real and true ourselves.

Do You Pursue Blindly?

In my surrounding, many young girls chase bags that might get more likes on the social media. But they use the wrong way to approach their wishes; no regular food, take a part-time job without sleeping or live in a messy room that is out of organizing. However, when they carry the bags going out, they have a happy and big smile on their faces; that happy faces just earn likes from you and me. Is it better to have a lifestyle that you indeed need, or to pursue a bubble that only “looks nice”? Some days ago, I met a girlfriend whom I don’t see so often. I saw her attract-attention lips and cheekbones firstly far from ten meters away. It is affordable for her to take beauty treatments; however, I do not see the pretty and charming woman on her face anymore. When we mostly judge ourselves with the standard from the general public, dare you to have your ruler to decide your individual standard?

Do some nice things to make you smile in your dreams

There is nothing more important than this issue. Do something that you do enjoy might not bring you good income or a competent title; however, it raises your passion. Some years ago, I met a boy who had green hair, and long eyeliners on his big eyes. I asked him for some street style photos and chatted with him for a while. In such a big city, Munich, we meet each other by chance quite often. Three years later, the little boy turns eighteen. The latest time when we met, he wore a beautiful makeup, pink eyeshadow with elegant eyeliners, together, he had the matched pink color on his lips. He had dreamed of modeling; after years of life experience, he decided to keep studying and focus on the career of Beauty. “This is what I have always dreamed to live; I do enjoy.” He told me before we say goodbye. He has always been courageous and bold to live in his way, from the outfit to his attitude. Moreover, he decides to develop himself in a way that he looks for. I think it is the best thing and nothing else can compare to it.

Transform Yourself Imperceptibly

I do believe that the most beautiful transformation is to modify yourself imperceptibly. Our face, the knowledge, the temperament and the personality are developed from time. And the appearance will represent the quality. An image often comes to my mind, the Chef Editor of Vogue Germany, Christiane Arp. She is tall and strong as the typical German woman; this is born with nature. However, I believe that her tough character that shows on her face is developed from her believes through years. She is not the standard beauty, but she is charming with a touch of gentle. I do think that every day has its purpose and every happening has its sense; this is the reason why I enjoy every moment, and this is how it riches our life.

到底該如何愛自己,才不讓這句連自己都聽得厭煩的話語不是空泛的口號?而我們又該如何成就自己的心靈?是不是多看幾本大家都在看的書、多喝幾杯咖啡就可以達陣了呢?再幾個月馬上邁入四十一歲的我在人生這條路上翻滾了好幾回,從台灣闖到德國的這幾年也累積了些心得;那麼我不客氣地倚老賣老把這些年月的有感與你分享。

愛自己得先認清自己

如果打個比方,那就是把自己脫個精光好好地瞧瞧;不管是這副身軀,或是平時隱藏在待人接物、倫理道德面具之後那張真實的臉孔。面對自己時都還說客套話,那麼這般處境也著實慘不忍睹;內心裡的不踏實就算別人不識破也是虛有其表。認清自己之後就會明瞭,哪些事情是為了自己而做,哪些過程只是為了旁人走過場罷了。前個星期與廠商開會,應門的職員讓我盯了兩三秒之後有種似曾相似的錯覺,我這才害羞地確認。曾經以幾近生病的狀態肥胖了大半輩子的她竟然在過去七個月內瘦下二十多公斤,我才認不出她來。我問了她減肥的初衷;「我走起路來很不舒服,脊椎與雙腿開始產生問題,與其做復健以及忍受生活中的不方便,我覺得把過多的體重減掉才是最根本的方法。」就是這麼簡單,遠比之前為了美貌以及更多漂亮的衣服可以選擇等理由來得更不冠冕堂皇,不過這是在她徹底認清自己之後才能有的轉變。市面上總有許多教我們減肥、變美麗的參考書,不過提出誘因都是可以更吸引人、可以擁有更豐富燦爛的生活等;而本末導致地,我們都忘了每個人心中那份最基本的自己。

不盲目追求

在我的工作與生活環境中,有太多周遭的人為了追求一只可以獲得更多讚數的包包而省略了生活中其它的基本需求,好比好好吃一頓飯、把應該放鬆休息的時間拿來打第二份工、讓自己住在雜亂不整的小窩中,不過當他們背著這只包包外出時,臉上同時也掛上了一副開心幸福的笑臉,那副笑臉剛剛也讓你我給了一個愛心的符號推高了影像人氣。我想說的是,我們應該把注意力放在真正的需求上,而非盲目地追逐不適合自己的生活方式。前幾日碰見了位許久不見、也沒有過多交集的女性友人,她的雙唇與顴骨(蘋果肌)以不自然的方式突出著實在搶眼,雖然她的收入與經濟能力絕對可以負擔這些費用,不過當初那位雙眼炯炯有神、笑容燦爛的美女已不復見;看來亞洲的微整型風也傳到了德國,還廣為盛行。如果只以一般多數人的眼光來界定評價的標準與好壞的準則,你是否有股霸氣只以自己為中心點來斷定喜好呢?

做幾件做夢時都會微笑的好事

再也沒有任何一件事比這件事來得更為重要。打從心底喜歡的事不見得可以讓自己擁有豐沃的收入、在好的環境裡工作或是襯頭的頭銜,不過是會讓自己廢寢忘食、持之以恆的好事。幾年前在路上見了一位年輕男孩,他的打扮造型特殊,一頭綠髮下一對水汪汪雙眼有著搶眼的眼線,我上前攀談拍了幾張照片。這些照片雖然後來沒有公開,不過我們兩人竟然在這麼大一座城市裡經常巧遇。三年過去,當初那位年輕男孩剛剛成年,最後一次遇見,他畫了精緻的妝容,粉色眼影上拉了一條優雅的眼線,嘟翹的雙唇上抹了與眼影同色的霧面唇彩,而綠髮以金髮取而代之。本來有著模特兒夢想的他在逐漸成長後似乎覺得有點不切實際,於是轉往技術學校繼續升學,半工半讀在美髮工作室實習彩妝與美髮。「這份學習讓我以更踏實的態度朝著喜愛的生活方式前去,我很喜歡。」我們揮手道別前他這麼跟我說的。男孩的影像一直在我腦海中不去,他從十五歲開始已經這麼勇敢、大膽地以自己喜歡的模樣過著生活,而如今他更決定要做這件令自己由衷喜愛的事;我認為再也沒有比這件事來得更美的好事了。

潛移默化才是最美的改變

隨著時間、年月慢慢推移的潛移默化才是最美的改變;這令我深信不移。女人的面孔、智慧發想與氣質都會跟著我們的念思而累積,累積之後在外表上的呈現則令人難以忘懷;那是一份經過轉化的質感,將我們心中的信念透過實體的面孔與身軀來展現。德國Vogue總編Christiane Arp的形象偶爾出現在我心中,個性剛毅的她有著德國女人高大的骨架,這是天生賦予的條件;不過我相信她毫不軟弱的臉龐上所透露的韌性與毅力是因為多年來所執著的信念而潛移默化生成的。她或許不是一線美女,但我總被她在各個不同場合中溫婉的笑容所吸引,這份美才最真實。這也是我開心過著、生活著每一天的最大原因,我總是相信每個今天都有存在的價值,每個事件的存在都有它的意義,而這段過程才豐滿了我們的人生。

No matter how we live and how we love ourself; it is important that we feel comfortable and become a person that we would appreciate. I understand myself well; I know what lifestyle fits me and I enjoy my work and do my best to it. Away from home, I style in a way that matches to my personality; at home, I only look for comfortable and cozy stuff. A feeling that makes you realize how happy you are.

I remember the time when I just moved to Germany; I even had no idea where to buy my underwear. My the other half held my hand and showed me CALIDA in a department store. Without any hesitation, he explained my needs to the old lady in the store and helped us to translate for each other. The design of CALIDA collections has always been comfortable and the excellent quality without any fancy decoration; it is just like the care and support that my the other half brings to me. Soft bra, one set of home wear and a silk nightgown, these are my favorite piece from CALIDA’s new collection. From the inside, we explore our most pure emotion; form the outside, we experience a unique atmosphere.

不管我們怎麼生活、如何愛著自己,最重要的是自己感到舒服,並且成為一個連你自己都喜愛的人。我了解自己真實的模樣、懂得在生活中有所取捨、以自己的喜好來斷定價值,並且認真地從事著自己喜愛的工作。對外的造型,我以適合自己個性與風格的單品來搭配;對內,我講求實在柔和的衣著;由裡到外實實在在,那種紮實感只有自己明白,那種舒適感讓自己的嘴角無時無刻泛起知足的微笑。

想起十幾年前剛到德國的自己,連買內衣都不知去處;另一半牽著我的手來到百貨商場的CALIDA店舖,毫無靦腆害羞向售貨的大媽說明我的需求。大媽要量尺寸、介紹款式,另一半時時刻刻在一旁翻譯讓人安心。CALIDA沒有過多花俏華麗的舒服品質一直是我這些年肌膚之親的好伴侶,如同另一半這些年來的支持與關懷。一套無鋼圈的棉質內衣褲、可當睡衣或居家服的套服,還有一件絲質的短睡袍,是我從CALIDA今年秋冬款式中挑選出來最喜愛的款式。當我們由內而外展現自己最純真的自信與情感時,亦可同時由外而內讓自己感到與眾不同。

This is a collaboration with CALIDA to show you their comfortable home wear collection; moreover, to show you a beautiful attitude that I realized from the life experience. The location was at Hotel Vier Jahreszeiten Starnberg.

What I Wore From CALIDA A/W Collection

 


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Fanning Tseng is the editor of the lifestyle website Yes! Please Enjoy which was founded in 2012. After living in Germany, she re-experiences about her growth. Fanning is now working as a photographer and a blogger; moreover, she is also a columnist for online magazines in Taiwan.

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